When Compassion Turns to Enabling
The following will introduce you to the two-session
seminar presented by Dr. Mary Willock.
In our nation today, we have a multitude of pastors who faithfully teach the Word, counsel with family members and provide a variety of fellowship and ministry opportunities to encourage Godly living.
In our nation, an epidemic of violence and dysfunctional behavior prevents too many of our people from living positive, productive lives – even in the church. Are there families in your church that live on the edge of disaster? They love their family members, but know that their family needs help. Too many have become enablers to maintain sanity in their homes.
When Compassion Turns to Enabling is offered as a two-session seminar or an 8 Week Bible Study. Parents, grandparents and all others benefit from this Bible-based, life-changing message. The following list of topics will help you understand how important this information is to every family in your church.
When Compassion Turns to Enabling
Session One – Predominately defines and discusses root causes of enabling. As we focus on children, parents and grandparents will learn how early childhood enabling undermines your child’s ability to care about others and live responsible lives – even into adulthood. Is there any hope? Yes.
Questions: Are you a superwoman or superman who has awakened to the fact that you cannot possibly meet everyone’s needs? Do you feel guilty when you say, “No?” Do you wish everyone around you would just grow up, have good attitudes and fulfill their responsibilities? And yet they don’t. Compassion rises up in you, and the next thing you know you are taking charge, fixing things and making things right. How can you recognize when compassion turns to enabling? When is it time to draw the line? How can you give without becoming a victim? If you have issues, our God has answers!
►My Testimony – I share how the destructive power of enabling impacted my family. God intervened time and time again to make me the victor and not the victim in every situation. He can do that for you.
►God has called us to be compassionate helpers, but not enablers. Learn the difference. Learn to protect your family from the destructive power of enabling.
►Almost every family has one or more individuals who are caught in the trap of enabling. Find out if you are an enabler.
►If there was anything you could do that would change your loved one’s attitudes and behavior, would you do it? Of course! I share many testimonies to help you understand what God has already provided. Be surprised with the simple changes you can make to see a dramatic difference in your situation. What about adult children and spouses? Yes, these strategies will help them, too.
►Let’s talk about excuses. You know you shouldn’t make them, but… you do. Real quotes from real parents make it crystal clear why we must change what we say to and about our children.
►Why is there so much anger and violence in our nation? Root Cause: Enabling. God has Called Christians to be His ambassadors in a lost and dying world. If we want to see change in our families and our world, we will stop the enabling. God will help us.
Session Two – Identifies enabling of adult children and spouses, encouraging parents, grandparents and spouses with strategies that help end the destructive power of enabling in their families – strategies that will help your family turn back to God.
Questions: Do you love your teenage and adult family members, but not their attitudes and behaviors. Do you feel compelled to rescue them? Is it too late to affect change in their lives? Do you feel trapped with no hope or relief? God has the answers for everything that is wrong in your lives. Get ready: Your lives are about to change!
►Were there enablers in the Bible? Yes. We look at the prodigal son from the perspective of enabling – a perspective you probably have never heard.
►Enabling and Money
►Are they trusting God or you to solve their problems and provide for their needs?
►You do so much for them. Do they really appreciate you? Or, does it make them angry? My child/spouse would never harm me. Are you sure?
►How bad can it get? You need to know.
►Rebuilding trust is very important to restoring family relationships. I was shocked when God revealed the answer to me. It is another simple solution with dramatic results!
►We need more than trust for a satisfying life. We all need purpose, God’s purpose in our lives.
►Their Motivation – The Praise Factor: How much praise is enough to keep your loved one motivated and on task? Learn more.
►Your Motivation – Will it be easy? Not always. Anything you value, you will fight for! God will help you in this and every battle.
Important: Neither my books nor these sessions are intended to be self-help resources, but God-help resources. If you really want and need God’s peace in your family and in your own life, then you are desperately seeking what God wants you to know and do. You will not give into feelings or emotions, but will learn God’s battle plan to save your family from dysfunction and destruction. In every challenge you face, pray and ask God for His direction. Do not react in fear, but step out in faith to see God’s provision for your family. Get ready to trust and serve God with everything that is within you!
Each session requires about an hour – a little longer with a song or two and prayer time.
Women’s groups can be presented on a Saturday morning before lunch time.
Church services provide an option for both morning and evening presentations.
When Compassion Turns to Enabling books are available at the sessions and on Amazon.com.